The Conversations You’re Not Ready For—But We’re Having Anyway

Not just awareness. Not just acceptance.

Accountability, truth, and action for all of us. We name complexity and demand real talk for a system overdue for reform.

We’ve waited long enough. For the data to catch up. For the narratives to widen. For people to be “ready.”

But the truth is: if we wait until everyone’s ready, the most important conversations will never happen.

So we’re having them anyway.

This is the room that doesn’t exist yet, but should.

A space where we say what needs saying about autism, systems, access, and truth.
Not to shock.
Not to shame.
But because naming it is the first step toward building something better.

FOR THE ROOM THAT DOESN’T EXIST YET

Guiding Principles

1. We Don’t Flatten the Spectrum.

We name the differences between quirky genius, daily meltdowns, and nonverbal life. We hold space for all of it without shame, pity, or branding.

2. We Separate the Person from the System.

Lack of access is destructive. Poor policy is erasure. Empty platitudes are gaslighting. We stop blaming a diagnosis.

3. We Honor Neurodiversity and Fight for Supports.

You can love someone as they are and still want more resources, more answers, more research, more help.

That’s not betrayal. It’s vision. It’s realism. It’s believing society should and CAN live up to its promise.

4. We Make Room for Grief Without Guilt.

It’s okay to say this is hard.

It’s okay to say it’s beautiful.

It’s okay to say both in the same breath.

5. We Hold Institutions Accountable.

Districts, doctors, insurers, researchers, keepers of the keys, the funds, the access: We see you.

And we will not let you use complexity as a cover for inaction.